Find your tribe

Finding your tribe of friends especially when you become a mom is hard. I have lost some friendships ultimately because we moved and didn’t keep in touch as much or because we weren’t on the same level as moms or in life. You need to find friends that push you to be a better version of yourself, ones who can inspire you, friends who ultimately feed your soul and not eat it. It takes awhile for you to find your groove as a mom at first, and my best advice is to find the moms that you want to be like. I have met moms at gymnastics, the park, the zoo, our neighborhood, you can find them everywhere. You have to push yourself out of your comfort zone of keeping to yourself and just reach out to them.

I have two of my high school girlfriends that are still to this day my best friends.  We have made it through the awkward stages of life together, thanks jr. high, and we were there for each other through all the drama of high school and now into adulthood. In all truth no one will ever know you like these girls because we went through so much life together, and I think its pretty awesome that we are still besties now. They definitely feed my soul, and we laugh so much when are together, and we all know that no matter what we will always without fail be there for each other. I have one of my best mom friends that I met in our neighborhood in Tyler. Every time we went on walks, Kryslyn would say; “Mom I want to go play with Mia.” I wouldn’t go over because I was scared to get out of my comfort zone, or what if she didn’t like me. Fast forward now and we are best friends; even though we have moved, we talk all the time and I don’t know what I would do without her. She is definitely my soul sister and she just gets me. I have another couple of mom friends that we text and catch up and they are always there to support you and just love on you. Those two have brought so much positivity into motherhood for me and are just the most amazing people and I am so thankful we keep in touch. I have met some really sweet moms in gymnastics too and we laugh, share mom stories, life stories and by the time I leave I just feel so much better. Because when you stay at home to be able to talk to an adult before five is super rare and also really appreciated when it happens lol. There are the moms where you think to yourself, Lord please don’t let me sound like that or act like that, or the moms that are so calm you wonder what drug they are on and where can you find some lol. You need a mom friend who is going to make you feel better about yourself, someone that when you are having a hard time you can call and she will listen to you cry if that’s all you do for 30 mintues. You need the friend that will listen to you when you are in the trenches of mom life and not make you feel judged but just to listen. You need the mom friends who you can call at anytime and if something comes up to come to your rescue, or the friend that you can go to dinner with and laugh because laughing is so good for the soul. You definitely need a friend you can call that you trust their advice more than anything because you have watched them be an amazing mom. You just know that her judgment will steer you in the right direction.

My friends are truly the most selfless, genuine and loving mothers that I know. They love their families and their children so much and it shows, and they have taught me a lot about myself and about life in general. They all give me a little something to look up to, and I learn something from each and every one of them. If you are around someone who you may love but you are just not on the same level of being a mom or a wife, distance yourself and focus on what is important and what is best for your growth as a mom and a wife. This goes back to letting them feed your soul not eat it; it doesn’t have to mean that they go away forever, but if it’s eating at your soul and not feeding it then it is not what is best for you right now. I love that I can say that my tribe feeds my soul, because this is the way God intended for us to live life not for ourselves but for others. He wants us to have a generous, loving, and selfless heart not just with our husband and children but with the world as well. Make sure the tribe you have around has the same heart and it will make all the difference in the world!

XOXO